Winter Break Guide and Pt II from Miles
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In light of the concert tonight, i wanted to send this out in case you have an extra 3 hrs to read this afternoon! This is actually 1 of 4 that i will send out over the next month and they are lengthy! No pithy writing on this matter would suffice. I pray it might effectuate the title. -miles
With a View Towards the Elevation of the Conversation on Homosexuality
Jonathan Edwards was perhaps the greatest American theologian to ever have lived. He often titled messages with similar wordy titles as I have called this paper. I am humoring myself to think it is worthy of such a lofty title. But that is what I pray the following words do. I hope to humbly elevate a conversation that is perhaps one of the most heated in our culture today.
I have written at length here but the topic may grab you to endure. I have been asked many times if I am going to respond at length to the Psalm 100 situation on campus this semester. I haven’t wanted to answer abruptly and knew I needed some time to read and think. Towards accomplishing the title above, I have been working on the following. It has been as much for my own reflection as it is intended for you the reader. I did not need feel compelled to respond right away due to my estimation that public discourse on the subject has not yielded many positives and I don’t want to add to the polarization out there. However, as I have tried to keep my ear to the ground of what is going on and in particular the different DTH and blog responses to the issues, I have been thinking it might be helpful to write some thoughts. I hope that what follows will be edifying and illuminating and I would love to talk at more length if anyone wants clarification or to respond.
First, let me say, what actually needs no mention, that this is a very complicated and hot issue. It is one of the marked topics in our current culture. It is and continue to be a defining moment in the history of the church. In this light I believe the Church’s sensitive response is incredibly important. However I am grieved that it has often been inconsistent with the character of Jesus lacking in humility and kindness. It has left the conservative wing of Christianity feeling self righteous and smug. They have looked down on a deeply personal part of some people that they do not themselves deal with and find incomprehensible in others. Second and more importantly, before I give you any of my thoughts, let me tell you that I feel so deeply for the angst with which people wrestle with this issue in their lives. It is quite easy to have opinions about homosexuality without putting yourself in the shoes of someone struggling to make sense of the feelings they have and the cultural messages that are all around them. There are far too many strong opinions out there without considering that people have real emotions, hopes, dreams and fears. If you are one of the many asking yourself what to do with your feelings of same sex attraction, please know that I care about you as a person and would love to sit down and talk more personally. A public forum and the Blogosphere are terrible places for dialogue to take place.
For what follows I am keeping in the back of my mind that there are probably two main groups of you. Some of you experience same sex attraction and of course some of you do not. Your emotional connection to this matter is certainly much different from each other. I will try and take that into account and address your potentially different reactions and viewpoints. Though I will try, I will probably fail to fully appreciate the feelings of those with same sex attraction not experiencing it personally and I ask for your pardon.
To further delineate reader response, if you are NOT one who struggles with this issue, then you probably fall into one of two more main categories. First Group- you have your mind made up about what the Bible says and might even be fairly intolerant of any other views whether you come down on the conservative or liberal side. Second Group- you may not sure what you think about the issue and perhaps are even confused. You have of course heard the conservative view that the Bible is clear on the issue. Then you have also heard opinions to the contrary calling the first view outdated and intolerant. You are very concerned with being a loving person and don’t want to be judgmental. You see that history reveals many other areas of Christian bigotry once defended by scripture only to eventually be seen for what it is. You are worried that this may be another case where enlightenment will someday shed clarity on another error of the church.
Again to further delineate, if you do have same sex feelings, you also might fit into two main categories. They mirror the above however of course you are much more emotionally and physically connected. One, you have your mind made up about what the Bible says and consequently you are either fighting your desires to remain Biblically faithful, or you have freed yourself from a traditional of the Bible to also remain Biblically faithful. I have known people in both categories. Second, like the above heterosexual, you may be confused. That is probably an understatement if you are in this category. There are so many different opinions and debates raging you may be experiencing a great deal of angst as you wrestle with what you feel, what you hear and being caught in the midst of it all. Again, it’s probably your category that my heart most goes out to and I hope to help you as you process life.
Here are the topics I want to address:
1. The largest category of comments I see floating around on the internet have to do with Bible believers seeming to pick and choose what they take from the Bible as either relevant or not relevant to Christian conduct today. In particular it is questioned why Christians enforce some of the OT laws and not others.
2. Closely related to the above, the main mantra preached on campus and in the culture at large is “Tolerance”. We are commanded to be tolerant of all viewpoints. The question is then asked, shouldn’t we change the condemning stance of the traditional church in order to be more tolerant and perhaps even draw more people in because of it. If it is arbitrary which laws we abide by and which we reject, the tolerant view is of course preferable.
3. There is also a great controversy over the limited discourse of Homosexuality in the Bible. In the NT it is limited to Pauline writing and Jesus never says a word. In many other areas of Christian ethic, conservatives have repented of previous errors in interpretation at the expense of marginalized groups. With Bible in tow, Christians have promoted slavery, the oppression of women, imperialism and many more heinous actions. It is said that the issue of homosexuality will be one more of those issues that needs release from its oppressive tautology.
4. Fourthly, it is being hotly debated whether or not the Bible actually does prohibit homosexuality or whether the conservative interpretation of scripture is flawed.
Planks and Specks
Here is the fundamental problem in the current debate. Those on the conservative side are sinners. They have rebelled against God. They have cut right relationship with the King of the Universe by usurping his authority and claiming that freedom from God is where true life is found. (Genesis 3:1-7) Thus intimacy with God is lost. We were created for this intimacy and without we are ruined. Harsh? Well that is the plight of all of us, conservative or liberal or whatever is it not? So no matter where you find yourself in this debate, you have to admit you bring baggage to the discussion.
Now, I am assuming that most of you reading this have responded to the love of Jesus by repenting and trusting in his blood for your salvation. You have been set free from the ultimate consequences to your cry for freedom. However, like all believers in Christ, we still carry baggage. We still carry around in us a predisposition to return to intimacy on our own. We attempt to somehow bring healing to the deep wounds left from our rebellion. I am ultimately a child of God and He calls me his beloved! That is radically healing. Yet I still live in a fallen world where I strive to feel good about myself apart from Christ and so heal myself. Practically, I am relentlessly tempted to put others down and claim my superiority. This is with a view to heal the deep longings of my heart for my own validation and worth. This is self-justification on an every day level. There is a constant battle that rages in my heart.
If I am still trying to find my own justification for my existence in life, it causes me to be at odds with my neighbor. My neighbor’s success means my loss in some sense. That is why I don’t fully delight in my friend’s promotion. What does another’s promotion mean but my demotion? I don’t fully delight in my friend’s joy. What does another’s joy mean but my awareness of my depression? My life is lived in constant evaluation of my own value in light of another’s performance and thus my own performance.
So when it comes to an area of sin in my own life, I play a game of de-valuing the seriousness of my own issues while inflating the value of the sin of others around me. I feel safe when I can point to others and say, “at least I am not as bad as them”! “Sure, I have issues, but look at theirs’”! Loving others becomes quite tedious when I am in a war for my own identity. Instead of wanting what is best for my neighbor, I secretly desire their subordination if just a small amount in order that I can find validation for my existence. Sound extreme? Search your heart.
Now return to the issue herein being discussed. For the conservative Christian, Homosexuality can really be your salvation! What a blessing to your identity. A group of people disdained by the church, disdained by society and a group with which it is so easy to find fault. Yes, you have sin, I have sin, but look at their sin! Honestly, if we can keep the attention on the GLBT community we don’t have to examine our own issues so carefully. You see how it works?
Some of you think this discussion is a waste of time so far. You want to get down to what I think about the issue of homosexuality in black and white terms. Do I side with the conservative or liberal view!? Please examine your heart. Do you see what you are doing? You want to find justification for your point of view, conservative or liberal and so somehow to feel superior to another group of people and so justify your existence. We all play the game and until we are honest, humble our selves, repent of our own self justification we will never have a fruitful discussion. The polarization will continue. Christ will not be hope, but will be a tyrant in the eyes of many. Gandhi’s famous quote will prove true, “I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.”
When I first started writing this paper, I set out to do some research on the different views so I could intelligently communicate what I personally think. I wanted to come to terms with the key passages of scripture. I wanted to define clearly what I believe so as to take a stand in the argument. The more I thought about it, the more I read, the more I prayed, I see great danger in my heart in this approach. Sure, I want to equip others to think Biblically. But in order to think Biblically about specific issues there is so much about our hearts that we need to first examine. If we would fail to love as the Bible points us toward, how can we think truly Biblically about any specific issue? In the current discussion, it is not clear teaching on homosexuality that is most needed. It is clear teaching on the self-righteousness to which all of our hearts cry if not tempered by the Holy Spirit.
So examine your hearts. Why do you care so much about this issue? What do you have to prove? What are you trying to accomplish in your attempt for right answers? Have you ever put yourself in another’s shoes? Have you asked the Lord to cause you to free yourself from self-love in order to truly love others? We will only be further polarized in this debate if we do not answer these questions with the Gospel of Jesus Christ’s love for each of us. No matter what anyone says, the liberal side will further be entrenched in their views of superiority at the intolerance of the other side. The conservatives will only be further entrenched in their feelings of superiority at the clarity of truth on their side. I believe there is true truth in this matter but it will not matter unless we can express it in a humble, listening, compassionate, gentle manner that stems from the redemption found in Jesus. I encourage you to read no further today and pray that God might lead you to deeper intimacy with him before you come back to this topic.
In light of the above, I want to help shape the discussion and clarify some of the surrounding difficulties of interpretation that our culture brings to the argument. I am consciously spending a good deal of time shaping the discussion before telling you what I think. If you think you can tell where I am heading, I urge you to read on and not make too many assumptions.
More to Come….. Miles